parenthood and bible reading

(This is part of a series. For the previous posts, see here.)

You know the phrase “If something’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well”?

I have a new version, designed for parents: “If something’s worth doing, it’s worth doing at the first opportunity you get…you sure as hell won’t get another chance”.

Example: my kid goes down for a nap. “Great,” I think. “I’ll just empty the dishwasher, tidy away lunch, put a load of washing on, then read my Bible…” MISTAKE. I just know that I won’t get round to the last thing on the list. My kid will wake too soon, or I’ll get distracted by other needy tasks.

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There is, of course, no Biblical directive to spend time each day reading the Bible. And thank goodness for grace, which means salvation through Jesus, not through our own endeavours. But if I believe that the Bible is God’s word, then spending time reading it, hearing from God, needs to be my number one priority for those rare opportunities in my day when no one else is making any demands on my time. Unlike my kids, God never makes demands on my time. (He doesn’t repeatedly say my name over and over until I take notice, like my 3 year old, or bend His head round into my line of vision so that I can’t ignore Him, like my 1 year old.) But if I take seriously our relationship, I will choose to make time for Him.

I need to be careful that I don’t blame my kids for my own lack of discipline. Were my daily devotionals perfect when I was childless? Were they even daily? No they were not. As mentioned previously, I am hopeless at discipline. But – let’s be honest – protecting a bit of time each day for God is always harder with small people around. Our time is no longer our own, but theirs. For the hours of the day when our children are being looked after by someone else, or asleep, chances are we are at work, doing housework, calling the doctor, or just falling asleep, shattered by the day’s demands.

I would like to say that I’ve cracked this one, and here are five simple tips to help you find the disciplined life you’ve always wanted. But – again – no. This blog continues to be a log of my failures. (Failure log = flog??) But Jesus came for failed people, so that’s OK; I’m learning to see things through His eyes and not the world’s.

There is one thing, however, that I have learned: Bible reading requires some sort of routine. When you have kids, they also have some kind of routine. But it changes. Sometimes after a year, sometimes after a few months, sometimes daily. So, as parent-disciples, we need to be flexible to adapt our routine to theirs. When my kids’ routine changes, so does mine. God has given me 24 hours in my day as he has everyone else – so I know there must be time to spend with Him. It may look very different to pre-2009, it may look very different each day, and it may not be many minutes at all, but I believe in a God who is powerful enough to use each word of His word to grow us more into His likeness.

And this makes me very happy. 🙂


“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

2 Timothy 3:16-17

4 Replies to “parenthood and bible reading”

  1. Brilliant Lucy, I’m not an young mum now, but what you say is so helpful to me, thank God for you, God uses you in a wonderful way.

  2. One thing I was very challenged by over the last 12 months (and admittedly it’s different because our are a bit older) was the lack of modelling the Christian faith within my relationship with my kids. Sure, I would pray for them at bedtime, and read Bible stories, and the like. But they never had the opportunity to see me modelling my own faith to them. So over the past year I’ve made a real effort to do some of my own personal Bible reading where (and when) they can see me. (This, for me at least, is at breakfast time. I know that reading at the table probably shouldn’t be encouraged, but it worked the best)

    I haven’t got the prayer thing sorted just yet – probably need to work on that this year 😉

    1. Hi Ben, yes that’s a great thought and encouragement to other parents to be actively modelling different aspects of ‘discipleship’. I was shocked a few months ago when Lois picked up my hair straighteners (switched off!) and held them up to her hair…she clearly knows what to do with them, as she’s seen me use them lots of times, but I was challenged in the same way you’ve been: does she see me reading the Bible? OK, as you’ve suggested, it’s a little different with very young kids, i.e. if I take my eyes off Lois at the moment, havoc will ensue, but later on, when they’re a bit older (and more able to understand what it is I’m doing), I hope they see me prioritising Bible reading/prayer/worship in the home.

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